Anything that helps get our anxiety down and help us get over our first reaction.
Self-talk or cognitive therapy. We have thousands of thoughts through out the day. We tend to believe them but many are irrational and can make us feel crummy. Our thoughts actually cause chemicals in our body that can cause depression. So retraining our thoughts is imperitive. I think we need to teach these techniques to our children. This is what therapist do so why not get a headstart and teach this technique at an early age. That is why I wrote A.N.T. Annoying Nonsense Thoughts. I wanted an easy book to learn this technique to kids and adults in a simple way.
Some people can get into their rational part of their brain quickly. Others (like me) have to take time to find their way there. The more we are 'self-aware'- the better off we are. For the mother who found their son looking at the pages it may be better off to say, "We will talk about this after I have some time to cool down." Then walk away.
But seriously do give yourself time to ponder and become rational. Do things to relax you so you can handle the situation in a way you can be pleased about. Work your way out of the primitive brain into your logical/ rational one.
I am a mother of 3. I have a passion for helping kids feel comfortable in their 'own skin'.